So today I want to talk about sex. See, a few days ago I read a novel about a girl. Now, a lot of bad shit happens in this girl's life that has no bearing on what bothered me so much about it. Mostly what I want to talk about is the fact that this character is fat. Just in case you momentarily forget it she reminds you over and over and over again. Not only is she fat but she's decided that this makes her unlovable. Not generally unlovable of course, she acknowledges that the people who surround her accept her, love her, etc. No, she's fat and this makes her unlovable in a sexual way. She's unfuckable. No one wants to look at a fat girl naked. She won't stop talking about how fat she is and how impossible this makes it for people to be attracted to her. And by the end of the novel this has not been resolved. She's been essentially proven right, no one has kissed her no one has had sex with her. People keep calling her pretty but she's pretty as compared to her cousin who has committed suicide. She has one encounter with a guy who is high and using her. She has no real fulfilling proof of her beauty (her own beauty not as compared to someone else) and she's still convinced that no one wants to fuck a fat girl.
I, for one, am fucking sick of this bullshit. As a fat girl I can tell you without blushing that yes, people do want to fuck fat girls. People fall in love with fat girls, people fall in lust with fat girls. I'm not ugly (although I do have ugly days) and I'm not unfuckable. Plenty of guys want to get with this. I'm not exaggerating in the least. And yes, I know I'm supposed to be ashamed of my body, I'm aware of what it looks like and what people see when they look at me. But here's the thing: when I want to get my groove on as it were there is no shortage of men and women who want to help me out with that. I've got curves and they're sexy curves. And that's the secret to it I think. No matter what your size you're only unfuckable if you tell yourself you are. This very theory has been proven throughout my own lifetime. When I used to feel ashamed about the way I looked people didn't look at me. I blended in like fat girls are "supposed to," I covered up, I starved myself to be pretty. And then one day it dawned on me...I am pretty. I'm really fucking pretty. And I traded in the big shirts and the baggy pants for skirts and low cut tops and jeans that actually fit my curves and I let people see me in my fat girl glory. And that's when it changed. People started asking me out, I had dates, I had boyfriends and girlfriends and little somethings on the side. I could pull men out of my pockets. I still can.
See, it's all in the attitude. Sure some people are still going to call you fat, ugly, whatever behind your back but most of them are going to think you're the most beautiful girl in the room because you carry yourself that way. And some of it's about dressing right but most of it's about you. You can wear anything as long as you're confident in it. And that's the real secret. Fat girls are sexy too. Everyone can be sexy...you just need to find that sexy place inside of you and let it shine. So let's stop all this fat girls are unfuckable bullshit already. No one's going to tell me I can't get what I want because I know I can. I know I'm pretty, I know I deserve to be satisfied. I don't have to take someone's sloppy seconds if I don't want them, I'm more than capable of getting things on my own. I'm comfortable with who I am and I'm here to tell all the ladies (and gentlemen) out there that you just have to love yourself. Once you do, I promise it all just comes to you. It really does.
-The Dormouse
well damn. right on
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